Saturday, September 18, 2010

just wondering...

is a ceremony program really mandatory?

anyone ever heard of just skipping it all together?  i'm 6 days out...

thanks :)

13 comments:

  1. I didn't have one and didn't want one but you might not wanna listen to me because I didn't have a lot of things that a lot of brides might feel are must haves. What do you do with a wedding program after? toss it. Leave it on a table. I say it's to much to worry about at this point in the game. Guests don't need to read about what's going to happen before it happens....surprise them!

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  2. mandatory? nope nope nope. I agree with frugalista- it is one of those "toss it" things right after the ceremony ends. We are planning on having one, but if we were 6 days out I can't say it would be at the top of our to-do list. If you do want to knock one out- I just googled image "one page wedding programs" and saw a whole host of ideas. You could type it up in 20 mins and be good to go!

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  3. I agree with the two above me. It is definitely not mandatory. It may be helpful for guests, but others may only breeze throw it and toss it at the end.

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  4. We're not having one! I think they're mostly a waste of paper. We also skipped STDs, table numbers, and a seating chart/place cards. (We're having a small wedding of 45, so these things weren't necessary.)

    Can't believe we're date twins! Are you more nervous or excited now?

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  5. We are not doing ceremony programs. I've been to weddings with them and without them. The weddings without them, I didn't even notice there was no program. The weddings with them, I thought they were a nice touch since they were longer ceremonies, but tossed the program almost immediately after the wedding.

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  6. the last 3 weddings i have been to did not have ceremony programs.

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  7. I'm a dollar short and a day late, but I agree with everyone else. Totally not mandatory!

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  8. We skipped them. I figured people probably just end up leaving them in the pew and it distracts them from paying attention :)

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  9. unless if you have some message that you *have* to tell the guests (and can only tell them on paper) i'd say not mandatory. i mean, we had them, but only because we wanted people to be able to play word games while waiting since so many of them couldnt play on their phones given that they were in another country :) good reason, eh?

    assuming you have a wedding website, anyone who cares would know who your bridal party is. and even if the ceremony is more offbeat, then surprise the guests!

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  10. Definitely not mandatory. We're doing a one-pager and I expect most if not all will be in the trash after the ceremony.

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  11. That's totally optional! I've been to many weddings that didn't include one!

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  12. NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO

    Could I be any clearer? hahaha....I ruled that one out about a month ago after going back and forth. I am doing just about everything under the sun, myself so the idea of the program just about threw me over the edge. So no you don't...the guests will look at it for 5 minutes while waiting for the ceremony to start and then after that leave it on their chairs and forget about it...so no! :)

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  13. I know you've already decided on this and I think even put your programs together...I don't believe they are mandatory. Of course if you have a HUGE wedding party and/or a lot of soloists/readings, it would be nice for your guests to have them to keep track of things. We weren't going to do programs at all, but then about a month before the wedding I kept getting other-worldly hints (meaning, the suggestion/idea popped up on every wedding website I looked at, plus our officiant said something) about fan programs. We got married outside, in South Carolina, at the end of August. Knowing it would be pretty darn warm, we figured it would be nice to provide fans for our guests, and we easily incorporated our programs into that idea.

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