Monday, November 1, 2010

a piece of advice for the big day

i have tons of things that i learned on the big day but the biggest thing i took away was this: make a list of photos you want to have taken on the big day beforehand!  no joke, people.  just do it.  i heard the same thing and was like, whatever, my photographers will be mind readers and i'll have no problem getting all the shots i want (that are currently stored inside my head).

in the planning i thought, i have so much time, i should probably make a list but no big deal, the photogs will definitely get that random shot of the detail i worked so hard on.  well, they won't, unless you give them some direction!  for the 100th time, my photogs were AWESOME, but i never gave them a list so they didn't know what those "must have" photos were.  they asked me a million times - do you want any more pics with your girls (post-wedding jacin says YES, day-of-wedding said NAH, I'D RATHER PARTY)... you get the picture.

so seriously - go to or any of the other trusted websites for wedding inspiration.  check out your inspiration board (or make an inspiration board) and send to your photogs.  make a list, people, and have it printed out and ready to go on the wedding day so you can give to your photogs and make sure that by the end of the day, every item on your list is checked off.  if you don't, you can kick yourself like i am, because in this game, there are no do-overs, so you need to get it right the first time.  otherwise, you can rely on the facebook candids that will surely show up after your wedding day.  don't say i didn't warn you - you can thank me later :)

to get you going, below is a list of some of the most photographed moments of a wedding:
  1. Getting ready shots – bride’s hair & makeup, groom’s cufflinks & tie
  2. Groom's expression when he sees the bride for the first time
  3. Father's expression when he sees his daughter for the first time in her gown
  4. Traditional family portraits - in-laws, parents, siblings
  5. Bridal party photos of the girls, the guys, and the whole group together
  6. Wedding day details - the dress, the shoes, the venue, the place cards...
  7. First dances - husband/wife, mother/son, father/daughter
  8. Toasts
  9. Cake cutting
  10. Bouquet/garter toss (if applicable)
  11. Group shots dancing
and some of the more "untraditional" pics can include:
  1. Bride’s dress alongside her mother and grandmother’s dress
  2. Shoe shots – close-ups of the group but focusing on their footwear
  3. Invite close-up
  4. Photos involving the family pets
  5. Photo booth candid shots
in the end, it’s better to be prepared than not – and just think, it’s one more thing off your list and on to theirs.



  1. Good advice! Definitely doing this :)

  2. Wonderful tip! And so so so true.

    I made a list similar to the one you made and told them I REALLY REALLY wanted a lot of detail pictures. I DIYed a lot of my stuff and wanted it documented.

    Weddingbee really helped me too. I looked at pictures from other brides and made notes of what I wanted and what I could skip.

  3. I didn't have any getting ready shots!!!! So sad.

    Detail shots would have been nice as well.
    Great advice

  4. I only add: make sure your photog carries through too - I did give my photog a list and we went through it and I even sent them examples and a couple pictures I'd love to replicate... fail. But then again, I think our photogs just stunk.

  5. GREAT words of wisdom! I did this on wedding day and got all the pictures I wanted and then some. I think it helps to be organized and thoughtful.

  6. Great advice. I started doing this and left the silly list at home. Nice huh :). I did before hand send my photographer a photo (on my blog, the header) of one I wanted.

  7. This is great advice. The list I made for our friendtographer was of the family shots we needed. Somehow, 2 am the night before my wedding my brain wasn't fully functioning and I didn't remember to write down the detail shots I wanted. I'm still upset that I didn't get a ring hand picture. =[

  8. I agree that this is good advice, but I'll also add that brides should manage their expectations. If for whatever reason (bad weather, delayed schedule, etc.) your photog doesn't get a photo on your list, don't let it bring you down. Of course, if your photog took horrible pictures overall or missed an incredibly important shot, like the bride with her mother or something, you have the right to be upset! Basically, things happen so even the best photogs might not be able to get every single shot.

  9. Also take into consideration your photog's style...I didn't do a list, but there were a couple photos I would have liked similar shots of! An image is worth a thousand words!

    We were really happy with how little posing we had to do :)

  10. Thank you for this list! I never thought about my dress next to my mom's and grandmother's dress! That would be a very special picture!!


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