I've had this post in my head now for a while and haven't been quite sure how to say it, but I'll give it a try now. I've seen so many of my lovely blogger friends posting about this lately that I just had to say something. Of course, hindsight is always 20x20!
Many of you have been posting lately about how you haven't been accepted as a blogger for certain websites, or your dress isn't as pretty as someone else's, or you can't afford the platinum weddings you've seen around. This really gets me down, because from the outside, I can see how awesome you are, but I think it's hard in this busy world to sometimes see it yourself.
Case in point: my hair trial. I love Carrie Underwood, don't we all? She's a fearless female paving the way for her own success, and she's gorgeous at that. So when I was choosing inspiration for my own wedding hair, I brought in the photo to the right:
And you know what I learned? I don't have Carrie Underwood's face. :)
What I'm trying to say, is, there is a lot of inspiration out there. There are countless blogs, websites, and images to help you determine your own focus for the big day. But you can't let yourself get caught up in all the buzz so much that you lose sight of what you started out to do, which is plan a wedding that reflects the two of you as a couple in a way that is meaningful and memorable (and lovely, of course).
There's always going to be someone who doesn't necessarily like what you do - because we all have different taste, and that's life. But you can't let those things cloud your focus for what you're setting out to do, because those people, simply put, aren't YOU.
Easier said than done, right? But it's true! Some people might not like my canning jar logo, or a bathing suit I posted earlier. Not many people will easily appeal to the masses and that's the best part about being unique. I find myself trying to narrow my niche (both for my business and blog) everyday, and continue to gravitate towards the nautical, rustic and textured images... and have recently coined the term "shoreline chic" as my inspiration for all lovely things I find. And although this might not appeal to everyone, it's still OK. It's challenging and frightening to put yourself out there and not pretend to be someone you're not because you think others might not like what you're doing. But by being yourself you can relax (somewhat) and start to really focus on what makes you you, or in the spirit of weddings, what is meaningful to you as a couple. And that, my friends, is the most important thing. Once you have that figured out, the rest will start to fall in to place. And if it doesn't? Well, that's what you have all the rest of the blogs for (like me!); to provide you with inspiration to keep you moving along (and of course you'll always have a personal cheering squad here in California rooting you along the way) :)
...So in getting back to the title of this post, whether you're accepted to a wedding hive, or have the amazing, expensive dress, or your ring is bigger than hers; just try at some points to take a deep breath and remember what this wedding is all about; and that is you, your partner, and saying I do. Because 20 years down the line, that will have been the most important part.